As exciting as fitness dating is, there comes a time when you just don’t know if it’s worth it anymore. It’s only natural that you’re questioning your decision to stay in the relationship after you realize things aren’t as peachy as they used to be. If you’re not sure whether the time has come to call it quits, we’ve got a list of our top 3 reasons not to break up with him any time soon.
#1: He Has Time for You
In the early stages of a relationship, you wanted to spend every waking hour together, and hated the fact you met later in life and not in your teens because you just had so many responsibilities you could only see each other 4-5 times a week. Months or years have gone by and you haven’t noticed a change in his behavior as he can easily fit you into his busy schedule. Obviously, circumstances of your relationship and each of your lives have changed, and yet he’s clearly not neglecting you. In today’s day and age, the most valuable thing someone can give you is their time because nobody has any to spare really.
He cares for you deeply if he makes an effort to see you as often as you’d like, and if there are issues in your relationship this one is definitely going in the ‘plus’ column. We all know how much he likes to spend most of his free time at the gym, but he still puts you first.
#2: He Doesn’t Have A Wandering Eye
Some men just can’t fully commit to one woman, while others don’t have such a problem with monogamy. The fact someone chooses to be monogamous doesn’t mean they don’t find other people attractive. It just means they’ve decided not to act on it. Finding a person who’s willing to fully commit to you and you alone is extremely rare, and you should put this one in the ‘plus’ column as well. It’s easy to maintain a high level of trust if you know your fitness boyfriend doesn’t check out other girls at the gym, doesn’t chat them up, doesn’t text them like he’s known them for years, and definitely doesn’t meet with them for coffee or just to hang out.
You should see this as a sign of deep respect that is elevating your relationship to a whole new level. Staying with someone who believes in the same things you do or who is motivated by the same values or beliefs turns out to be one of the best decisions you’ve made in your life in most cases. The fact that he’s never cheated on you and is unlikely to go down that road means you get to be in a healthy relationship in which you can grow and be yourself.
#3: You Want the Same Things
Have you ever been in a situation where someone you’ve known for a long time told you that you’ve changed? Have you noticed a change in your boyfriend’s behavior, attitude or point of view? If you’ve been together for a long time, there is no doubt you’ll both change compared to where you were when you first started going out. You’ll mature or your outlook on life will shift in unexpected ways due to new life experiences.
The fact that you want the same things now means that you’ve both changed in the same direction, setting the foundation for years and years to come. If it’s a matter of getting married, having kids, moving to another country, changing careers or anything that you personally find very important, count your blessings if you and your fitness beau see eye to eye. If you happen to meet other fitness singles you’re less compatible with, there is no doubt you should work on resolving any issues you may have in your current relationship. Whatever you decide, remember to always follow your heart and trust your intuition before making any big decisions, especially when it comes to the matters of the heart.